Setting goals when living with chronic illness is difficult.
I’m sure you’ve read my other posts on setting goals. It’s all the techniques you’ve heard before. Write it down. Make it specific. Apply a time frame to it. I’m not saying it doesn’t work, but when you’re body doesn’t cooperate it works less often than it does.
So if you’re like me you set all the these goals the way everyone else and then you never meet them. Depression sets in. You feel worthless and unable to achieve anything you set out to accomplish and when you pick yourself up off the floor, the cycle starts again.
I’ve learned a few things about goal setting and chronic illness.
Know your limit: All of us counting spoons have limits. In fact, most people do whether they count spoons or not. Our limits are just little bit fuzzier than theirs. So knowing your limits and how many spoons you have to work with is half the battle.
Don’t set unrealistic expectations. What feels like a doable goal for some, may be too much for someone counting spoons. I’ve learned I have extremely high expectations for myself (as well as others) and while it sounds silly, lowering my standards and showing myself some grace and mercy has made all the difference in the world. If I set a doable goal rather than a high expectation, I often find I achieve more than my goal, but am not let down in the end.
Include Joy in your goals. Most of us set goals to accomplish a task. I have found if for every two tasks I need to accomplish I throw one fun goal in there that makes me smile. It could be something as simple as reading a fun book or making a wish list of things for your home. Either way, don’t forget JOY!
Setting goals is achievable when you live with chronic illness. Just remember these 3 points and you’ll be set!
How do you achieve goals when you are out of energy?